>The concept of winner/looser is starting to bother me. In every game, competition, exam, for someone to win, someone else has to loose. You get rewarded for winning; actually, come to think of it, you get rewarded for making someone else loose. And in some cases, the other becomes your enemy to the extent in some competitions, people start hating each other. Of course! There is a prize to win and it should be mine!
At school, in order to win, some don’t share the information or are reluctant to help others, since others might take their places. In other cases, some might cheat to get the highest marks. If all this works, they get rewarded! So what did we create of our kids? Little monsters who want to win at any price, especially when it comes to be a condition to accept them and be proud of them as parents.
So I kept thinking about it, wondering what could replace this system? All of sudden I start wondering, what if we compete against ourselves instead of each other? What will
happen? How would this world be transformed?
I will be more willing to help you since you are not my ennemy anymore
I will share with you any information since this won’t threaten me
I will be happy for you if you won against yourself instead of being jaleous
I will sincerely congratulate you instead of smiling at you while envying you inside.
We will build love, compassion and cooperation instead of hate, jealousy and selfishness.
Back to school, students who are making progress, without being compared to others, will be rewarded.
Some parents will look at how hard their kids are performing instead of wishing their kids were different.
People won’t need to cheat in anything to get approved/hired/promoted/accepted.
But the most important thing, we will accept ourselves the way we are, be proud of ourselves, have a high esteem and self confidence, because we stop comparing ourselves to others.
Each and every one of us is neither better nor worse but unique, one of a kind…
You will be the only person to beat, so you will bring the best out of you, everyday, for yourself.
I found more than one good quotation on this, for an american writer, Orison Swett Marden, I choose couple of them:
“The size of your accomplishments, the quality of your achievement, will depend very largely on how big a man you see in yourself, what sort of image you get of your possible self, yourself at your best.”
“No man fails who does his best.”
And my favourite is:
“There can be no failure to a man who has not lost his courage, his character, his self respect, or his self-confidence. He is still a King.”
So, whom do you compare yourself to?