You know when you help others with something and they tell you “Thank You”, you would go “don’t mention it”, if they go “Merci” you would go “pas de quoi”, if they say “Gracias”, you would say “de nada” and I am sure similar expressions exist in other languages…
We even go one step further to tell the person that really what we did is not that important, not even worth mentioning it.
Same goes with any other positive compliment you receive; you might blush or diminish your own work by saying “it is not that great!” and sometimes, trying to prove to the person that you are not worth the compliment! In some case, it even goes in some cases to self-deprecating!
Whereas we accept very quickly a negative criticism or comment, as we are more likely to believe a negative comment than a positive one.
Even when we answer by “with pleasure”, how many times we really let this appreciation sink in our mind and heart and go deep down inside the same way the negative comment goes straight forward to the heart and ache it!
It is so hard for us to believe that we can be actually good and useful, and receive recognition and appraisal for it…
I know that sometimes we do favors without really expecting any credits, but when it happens, why not take it, breath it, digest it and let it settle in our hearts. After all, it doesn’t take a trophy for us to accept recognition; just a sincere “Thank you” would do 🙂
The next time someone says “Thank you”, smile and tell the person “It was really my pleasure helping you” in a way you really mean it and it was really a pleasure for you, then enjoy the emotion that comes out…
Henry James, an American writer, said: “There are two kinds of taste, the taste for emotions of surprise and the taste for emotions of recognition.”
As for me, I would like to thank you for stopping by every week, or every month, or even every now and then, to read my thoughts and share your comments: Thank You 🙂
Rania Hammoud, Life Coach
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