2015-03-27– Friday Whisper – A Letter…

If your children are to write you a letter about how you care about them, aside from the material stuff you get them, what would they write?

20 years from now, would their childhood be something they look back at with a smile or with tears?

40 years from now, how would your children remember you? What would they be nostalgic for? What would they miss from their lives with you?

Once you have children, it is not about you anymore…not about what you like or don’t like, nor it is about what would annoy you or frustrate you… it is about them…You need to get into their world, not the other way around…

You need to get to know them, what they like or dislike, what is their favorite music, movie, food, friends… what they are passionate about and what they are afraid from…

They want you to meet their friends, and they want you to be proud of them in front of them…

You cannot raise your children the way you were raised… they live in a different time, different parents, different place, and different society than yours…

You are not your dad… you are not your mom… and your children are not you…. so you cannot behave like your parents with your children…

And your children are more than just a grade or behavior or a way of thinking…. Each child is a complete world, just like you are…

If grades were what define a person, we wouldn’t have antisocial nerds…we wouldn’t have famous rich drop-out-college people…I am not saying our kids shouldn’t pursue education, I am saying they are more than just a number or an end-of-year average…

If labeling were a way to raise a child, we wouldn’t have low self-esteemed men and women…

If verbal and physical violence were a way to correct a child’s behavior, we wouldn’t have criminals or drug addicts or drunks…

If constant criticism were a way to make a child behave better, we wouldn’t have judgmental adults…

If material stuff was enough to prove that you care about them, we wouldn’t have happy poor people… we wouldn’t have rich people who commit suicide…

A praise by a mom or a dad can never be taken away by the criticism of the world… and a criticism by a mom or a dad will never be replaced by the praise of the world.

Home is more than just a place where we live… it is a place where we feel appreciated, accepted, respected, taken care of, secure and loved… a place that we want to come back to when we are tired, when life does us bad rounds, when we need comfort and help…

Frederick Douglas, an American author, said: “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”

And Bill Ayers, an American elementary education theorist, said: “Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.”

Show your love, compassion and empathy, so that your children will strive to become the parent you are for their children…

2015-03-27 – Friday Whisper – a Letter

Rania Hammoud, ACC, Life Coach

www.perfectmind.ca

Check also my blog at http://raniahammoud.blospot.com or at raniahammoud.wordpress.com

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