2015-04-17 – Friday Whisper – Sri Lanka…

Last week, we went on a short trip to Sri Lanka. Beautiful country indeed…the landscape, waterfalls, rainforests, tea plants, beaches… We visited many cities; Negombo, Kitulgala, Panawala, Kandy, and Nuwara Eliya… Rafting was amazing, hiking was refreshing, visiting a tea factory was informative, riding a speed boat was lots of fun…

The Temple of the Tooth was another beauty; mosques, churches, and temples co-exist peacefully over there…

Yet what I liked most is the simplicity of their life…

They are living easily without a Micheal Kors bag or Dior glasses… They don’t need to be connected all the time… Women look beautiful without cosmetic surgery… Kids are happy without owning tens of different electronic devices…

For many students, their only means of going to school is their legs…they would walk up hills, down hills, road sides, to get to school… for many workers, their shoes are their feet… for tea workers, their daily wages do not exceed $6…

Yet for all of these people, a simple hello or wave can make them smile…

It reminded me that simple life, albeit its difficulties sometimes, can be sufficient to be happy…

I know that if we would give them the choice, many would opt for luxury… and I know most probably I won’t be able to live their lives….yet it made me think how many times we feel bored even with a TV, a mobile, orlaptop…even with a car that can takes us where we want to… How many times we whine because “today’s lunch is the same food as yesterday’s!”, or that our car or phone is not the latest model, or the Internet is too slow because it is taking a whole 3 minutes to download!… How many times we complained that we don’t have enough clothes in our closet (since 4 suits or 5 dresses or 6 pants aren’t enough!)

There is no problem with luxury, there is no problem with wanting to own different things as long as we can afford them and doesn’t make them broke…my problem is when we tie our happiness to those things and feel deprived or poor if we don’t have them…

Lionel Shriver, an American Author, said: “A lot of people get so hung up on what they can’t have that they don’t think for a second about whether they really want it.”

And Bertrand Russel, a British philosopher, said: “It is the preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else that prevents us from living freely and nobly.”

Drop material stuff, gather more life experiences, and Life will have a different taste!

Ramboda Falls

Ramboda Falls

Tea plants workers

Tea plants workers

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2013-11-22- Friday Whisper – Sexy Lemonada!

Sexy Lemonada sent me an inspirational whisper for this week. When I read it, it made me reflect on how sometimes, out of nowhere, something comes out to shake us upside down, to force us to stop and reflect on our lives, to force us to start our happiness project…before it is too late…

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BUSY all Day! IS IT TOO LATE TO SCHEDULE HAPPINESS!!!

  “Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin”.

Everyone wants to be HAPPY. Some just wanna be CONTENT. But sometimes it takes an extraordinary situation to make us change our habits in order to take the time or make the changes that might lead to a happier state of being.

When you are sitting across from the doctors desk & they tell you that the results are positive and the (medical team) starts to talk about, stages, grades, surgery, port, etc…You do not necessarily think about the diagnosis, but you start thinking about…TIME……….ALL the time that you wasted being sad instead of HAPPY.YOU start to Think of REGRET. I should have said yes, I would have, I could Have, Why did I say next time. YES, YES, damn it YES.  You are angry at yourself.        

Living in the moment becomes the most IMPORTANT THING.

I recently came across the HAPPINESS PROJECT. It is a book written by Gretchen Rubin. She embarks on a happiness mission an ‘EXPERIMENT’ for one year. Her book is about her adventures.

Another Good read:  EAT, PRAY, LOVE: by Elizabeth Gilbert.

A woman’s Journey to finding happiness.

Start your own happiness project by visiting: www.happiness-project.com

Please enjoy the next clip from the movie EAT, PRAY, LOVE. Julia Roberts is amazing. Hmmmm! I think I want PIZZA.

 

Sexy Lemonada

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Jim Valvano, an American basketball coach and broadcaster, said: “Cancer can take away all of my physical abilities. It cannot touch my mind, it cannot touch my heart, and it cannot touch my soul.”

And Joseph Addison, an English poet and politician said: “Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains, losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures.”

And you, when will your happiness project start?

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2013-10-04 – Friday Whisper – Ice Cream…

Have you seen a toddler eating an ice cream? he hums and babbles and smiles while eating, feeling the happiest ever.

Now have you seen yourself eating that same ice cream? You might finish eating it without even noticing it!

And it is the same ice cream here and there. The difference lies in you and the toddler.

How come the same ice cream can bring joy to a toddler and not to you? It is because happiness comes from the inside, not from the outside. An ice cream doesn’t have a happiness ingredient in it, otherwise I would have cooked all my meals using it!

It is the happiness that is within the toddler that gets out and shows while he’s eating that ice cream.

What happened to the happiness inside you? Are you still waiting for an external event to make you happier? A new car? A house? A new job? Meeting a new girlfriend/boyfriend?

Many of who committed suicide in the world had more than one car and owned more than a house. Many CEO’s aren’t happy as we might think. And a new girlfriend/boyfriend not sure they want to be with you, a person who can’t provide happiness, otherwise you would have made yourself happy!

You won’t be happy when you will be successful or rich or married or a parent, you will be all of this and more, when you are happy… Happiness boosts everything in your life.

Brian Weiss, and American psychotherapist, said: “Happiness comes from within. It is not dependent on external things or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend on the behavior and actions of other people. Never give your power to anyone else.”

And Helen Keller, said:“A happy life consists not in the absence, but in the mastery of hardships.”

Do whatever it takes to bring out your own happiness… Dig deep in your soul, fight your own daemons, turn back and look into the eyes of your own fears, and let your inner light shine again…

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2012-09-14 – Friday Whisper – Who is Responsible for Your Happiness?

Do you feel unhappy? Because of whom? Is it because of your family? Your spouse? Your girlfriend/boyfriend? Your friend? One of your siblings or cousins? Your colleague? Your boss?

Is it because of a “thing” like your work? Your car? Your property? Is it because of your country? Your government?

Now that we know your unhappiness is caused by whom/what, next question: are you planning to be unhappy because of this person/that thing?

Next question: for how long?

Next question: do you realize that your own happiness lies in the hands of someone/something other than yours?

Next question: do you realize that you are giving this person/thing the full authority of deciding of your happiness?

Next question: do you realize that you are doing this willingly (consciously or unconsciously)?

Next question: do you realize that the same way you agreed (consciously or unconsciously) to give this person/thing this authority, you can consciously take this authority back?

Next question: do you know it is much much much easier to hold someone/something else the responsibility for your happiness than you being responsible for it? Why? Because otherwise you will have to move your butt/scratch you head and do something about it: more difficult!

I am not asking you to feel happy instead of mourning a dear person or feeling pain when a bone is broken. I am talking about day-to-day routine, because imagine you are unhappy day-in, day-out, if your life would be put in a book, what title would you give it?

I don’t want to hear “I am scarifying my own happiness for the sake of others”, because I don’t think they asked you to! Nor do I want to hear, “there is nothing that I can do to change it”, it means that you are dead-person-walking!

Even in love, your happiness cannot depend on your partner, because once your partner is gone, your happiness is gone too… your partner doesn’t want this burden either!!! Instead, be a happy person, which makes your partner enjoy staying around…

What you can do?

– STOP blaming others for your unhappiness

– Find a worthy purpose for your life

– Every day, when you wake up, assume the best

– No matter how you used to interpret the bad events, start doing it the opposite way: believe that events happen in your best interest

– Your happiness depends on your attitude, choose a positive one

– Adopt a surrender mind: accept that bad things happen, replace old goals by new ones and move on!

Dalai Lama said: “It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come.”

And John Milton, an English poet, said: “The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.”

Next question: Knowing what you know now, what are you going to do?

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