2018-09-07- Friday Whisper -The Future You…

In ten years from now, imagine yourself: where would you be? How would you look like? Who will be living with you? What will you be doing? How would you be spending your time? How many friends would you have? What will be your hobbies by then?

Now Imagine this same person take the mobile and make a phone call to you today… How would that conversation go? What would this person tell you to stop doing? To start doing? And to keep doing? What would that person blame you for? What would that person hold you responsible for? What would that person thank you for? And what would be one advice he/she will give you?

In case you don’t care how this conversation will go, keep doing what you are doing…

In case you want to make sure you have satisfactory answers, you need to look into many things: what are you current habits? What are your current values? your current beliefs? Your current challenges? Your current limitations? Your hopes and dreams? Whom are you blaming for not reaching your dreams yet? Who is responsible for your current misery? Have you found your purpose in life yet? Are you the driver of your life or the passenger?

Give the “future you” a bright future by starting today, and don’t bet on luck as luck only comes to those who are getting prepared…

Change your habits, google what you need and seek help from experts…

Benjamin Franklin, a former US president, said: “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail”

And Dr. Abdul Kalam, a former Indian president, said: “You cannot change your Future, you can change your Habits. And surely your Habits will change your Future”

The next time you imagine this phone call, do what it takes to make this conversation a pleasant one…

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Rania Hammoud, ACC, Life Coach

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2018-08-31- Friday Whisper -You Are the World…

You are the World to your children, which they see it through your actions… By that, you set the rules for them of how the rest of the world will treat them…In other words, how they will allow others to do so.

If you use physical violence (hitting and spanking) or verbal violence (screaming, calling names), they will find it normal if it happens to them in the future. Mind you, that if the physical violence leaves a trace on the body and which might vanish, the verbal one leaves a scar on their soul, which might stay forever.

Hitting and screaming have only one benefit: controlling your kids and letting your anger out. They have no other value whatsoever when it comes to educating and raising your kids. If you call your child “a failure” or “a stupid”, it will become his/her belief that they are so and will do everything to prove that, most of the time unconsciously.

You see, if you use violence and then tell your kids that you love them, you are installing a belief in them that violence is the other face of love. So your daughter would believe that it is ok for her partner to abuse her because it is a sign of love. And your son will use violence with his partner and kids to show them love!

On the other hand, if you treat your children with respect, you listen to them, you acknowledge their feelings and their needs, they will expect this from the rest of the world and won’t settle for less… they will stand up for themselves and for others in the face of a disrespect or act of violence.

It is ok for your child to do a mistake, even to repeat it, as long as you explain to them how to learn from their mistakes and bear the consequences, without shaming and blaming them. Doing wrong is part of life, we cannot expect them to do right all the time, specially that we do not ourselves!

Peggy O’Mara, a journalist and a blogger, said: “The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice”

And Leo Babauta, an author and journalist, said: “”The example we set for our kids, how to act when things don’t go our way is much, much more important than the rules we set for them.”

You are the World to your children; make sure you show them a Wonderful one!

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Rania Hammoud, ACC, Life Coach

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2018-08-03 – Friday Whisper – Nagging…

The other day I stepped out my home to the minimart nearby to get some fruits. It was a hot and humid night. And in my head I started nagging about the heat…for a minute then stopped and thought about it: so I am going to the minimart that is less than 100 meters away, walking – that is  I am in a good health, to buy something that I can afford, walking at night in a safe place then going back to a home where my family is safe and sound. Once I realized all this, I came back home thanking God for all the blessings I have, with every step I took.

See, sometimes you nag about your baby waking up at night for breastfeeding => baby is in a good health and you can breastfeed

Sometimes you nag about running around for your kids => you were able to have kids

Sometimes you nag about your kids being loud and doing mess around => they are in a good health and are meeting their milestones without major challenges

Sometimes you nag about being in the traffic => you own a car with a working air conditioning

Sometimes you nag about your boss or your colleagues or the workload => you have a job

Sometimes you nag about your extra weight that you can’t lose => you can eat anything you want

Sometimes you nag about your children’s grades => you can afford sending them to school and trust me grades are nothing.

Sometimes you nag about your parents are calling you very often => they are still alive

Sometimes you nag about the heat/cold when you go out => you are able to open the door and walk out

Sometimes you nag about how your feet hurt you because of how much you walked too much => you are not in a wheelchair

Sometimes we are so taken into our own drama that we forget our own blessings. Now I don’t expect you to be positive and happy all the time, especially when have more serious matters than what I stated above. It is ok to nag and feel down, just make sure once you start nagging, start counting the blessings. It always works.

Germany Kent , an American journalist and actress, said: “Take time daily to reflect on how much you have. It may not be all that you want but remember someone somewhere is dreaming to have what you have.”

And Elizabeth Gilbert, an American author, said: ““At some point, you gotta let go, and sit still, and allow contentment to come to you.”
If you can get to a contentment state, you are already wealthy!

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Rania Hammoud, ACC,Life Coach

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2018-04-20 – Friday Whisper – Healing…

I just finished taking a course on reflex integration called Masgutova method. In few words, this method integrates/reintegrates any missing or dysfunctional primitive reflex that we have. A primitive reflex, for instance, for a baby is sucking, turning head, or crawling. Under normal conditions, they emerge in a predictable sequence. If they are disturbed for many reasons, it will affect normal functioning and development. Those reflexes may get disturbed also during our lifetime, after a trauma, a surgery or due to lots of stress.

So I took this course for the aim of helping my daughter, as she has many reflexes unintegrated properly. And I thought, instead of taking her to centers to fix them, I’d rather take this course and help her myself now and in the future, whenever she needs it.

During the course, and after each reflex we took, we had to work with a partner to check the reflex and integrate it on each other. This is where I found out that I have many immature reflexes! And I thought, it is amazing how learning methods to help my daughter is revealing my own flaws and shows me how much I need to help myself first… How on our way to help others, we need to help ourselves along the way… and when I thought I am more whole and more complete, here is my child who lead me to a new path that showed me another dimension of me that needs to be taken care of…

An anonymous quote reads: “Until you have a kid with special needs you have no idea of the depth of your strength, tenacity and resourcefulness.”

And another one reads: “Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us.”

Mila, my love, you are healing me all the way…

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Rania Hammoud, ACC,Life Coach

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2017-12-29 – Friday Whisper – Fog…

Last week, we had heavy fog on one morning… nothing could be seen from the window… I hesitated to go out but I checked the weathercast that said the fog will clear out during the day… yet my window showed nothing but white… So I told myself to proceed and see how it will go: in case I feel it is too dangerous, I would call my boss and tell him the situation.

So I left to work and started driving… I could hardly see up to 50 meters. But the more I move forward, I could see what was there on the next 50 meters. I kept moving until I got close to my destination where the fog disappeared completely and the sun came out.

You see, sometimes in life, an event would happen to us asking us to start a new journey, yet we hesitate as we can’t see where it is leading us. So some of us may decide not to jump, as we are afraid of what might come up, and it is better to stay safe at home. Some of us decide to take a chance and start the journey, not knowing what will come next, but staying vigilant and cautious to deal with any surprise… and sometimes the fog may fade sooner or later, or even stay the whole route till our destination… But if we decide not to drive, we might never know what is awaiting for us out there ….

The fog also has this kind of suspense, mystery and charm… it promises discoveries on the way, surprises- good or bad… Just keep in mind,  good opportunities come disguised as fogs of uncertainty… only driving thru it will clear it out…

Joseph Conrad, a Polish-British writer, said: “It is not the clear-sighted who rule the world. Great achievements are accomplished in a blessed, warm fog.”

Take one 50 meters at a time, and keep going, the sun will come out…

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Rania Hammoud, ACC,Life Coach

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2017-12-22 – Friday Whisper – Traffic…

Every day I drive on an average of 1-2 hours. And you know, when you are driving long drives alone, you are in your head, thinking about everything you want to do, things you are forgetting to do, and when you are going to do them!

I also think about the traffic itself; you tend to think that you are alone in your car, driving independently.

When in reality, you depend big time on the way the driver in front of you drives, the one behind you, the one on your left, the one on your right… not only that, but you also depend on  the second, third, fourth car ahead of you… and the second, third, fourth car behind you depends on you as well…

See, when you think you are independent, you are totally dependent on others, the same way others depend on you… and all this either directly or indirectly….

Exactly like this life, people around you may be affected by your deeds, your decisions, the same way you are affected by them…. Even generations to come depend on you… what kids you are bringing up to this World, kids who will affect more generations to come… the same way you were affected by your parents, your ancestors and their deeds…

Martin Luther King jr, an American activist, said: “today our very survival depends on our ability to stay awake, to adjust to new ideas, to remain vigilant and to face the challenge of change”

So stay vigilant of what you say, what you do, how you think , how you judge, how you react… revisit your ideas and beliefs every now and then, it takes courage to face them, to face yourself, and to change…

Be vigilant while driving…be vigilant while living…

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Rania Hammoud, ACC,Life Coach

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2017-09-16- Friday Whisper – I lost a Friend…

Last week I lost a dear friend…. I lost a friend just because another guy decided to be reckless and drove insanely… just like that, he was gone…

It was a very sad surprise for all of us who knew him and his family…

And I thought about him, how did he feel when he was hit by that car? What did he think of last? What did he want to tell his wife, his kids, his parents, his siblings, his friends before he left?

He was on my mind with his family that week. I realized that between the day he died and the day he was buried, without me knowing, I was thinking about our regular gatherings, more than a decade ago, at his place with his wife and friends…. How happy and giggling those gatherings were… and I longed for one more gathering, to relive those moments… for us to reunite one more time…

We don’t know what is in store for us… maybe we are living our best days…maybe in the future we will look back at today and wish those days will come back…. Today I lost a friend, don’t know who would be next…one day my friends will lose me… Death is the only reality in this life… Everything else is debatable…

With every beloved we lose, we bury a piece of us with them… memories are the thing we are left with… and when memories start fading sometimes, we hang on to some photos here and there…we check their Facebook profile again and again…sometimes I sent my late beloved ones some page invitations…pretending they are still out there… as if nothing has changed…

Dear Hadi, I will not tell you that you will live in our heart nor that we will see you in your children nor that we will never forget your calmness, your always-smiling face…. I will tell you that you and Mirna are part of my memories, the good ones… and this will always be true…

Till we meet again…

Rania Hammoud, ACC,Life Coach

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